A neighbour

I just spoke to a man who told me a story about his mother-in-law who was diagnosed with an enlarged heart and was dying. It was in the days when family members could decide would is best for their members and he quickly took her out of the hospital to her home where she continued to live for one year more. Another friend of mine took her grandmother out of the hospital who also had a serious heart condition and she lived three more years. So how many stories like this are out there.

Engagement

I just discovered a Carlton card addressed to me by Randy: it says Love. Everthing beautiful begins with love. May the two of us be more in love with ever passing day. and may everthing that makes you happy always come our way. We are engaged. He gave me a ring three sizes too large and he said he would desize it. I do not know what happened to the ring but I am sure I will eventually find it. It had a wide gold band and a little diamond on it. He and his friend picked it out for me. They were so delighted in their purchase. The card is one memory I can keep.

Post from December 2 2012

So what happened a year later ... why did staff at GPC attack me and cause a total banning of me at GPC and get the Public Trustee involved. The Ethics Committee did nothing. Randy got sick after December 23 2012 and spent Christmas at St. Pauls....GPC then started to ration his treatment and kept labelling him DNR even after Randy's lawyer said he wanted FULL CODE. Sunday, December 2, 2012 Things are a bit better at GPC.... Things are getting a bit better for me with Randy now that I am allowed to enter Ward 2 and stay with Randy for one-half hour sometimes it is extended to one hour. If he doesn't feel up to getting up I make sure he is comfortable, we chat a bit, and I make sure his television is on. I do not have to take my valium any more as I access George Pearson Centre without anticipation of the stress of waiting and waiting and waiting for staff to bring Randy to the visitor's room. I was so intiminated that I could not speak to anyone for the fear that I would then be subject to a report that I was combative and agressive. Now still under security of course I can go down to his open ward bed and if he wants to go to my place or to Oakridge for a few hours, I help him get dressed and we are off. I recently purchased him a $80,.00 rain cape that engulfs him while he is in his wheel chair outside. He also wears a Steelers hat. I purchased him a Steelers jacket for his birthday on December 10 2012 which I know will make him happy. He is a devote Steelers fan. The same is when I return. I call 4777 Paladin Security on my arrival. They immediatley escort me down to his bed and watch me and I spend a few minutes sometimes a 1/2 hour to make sure Randy is comfortable. There is no problem; no residents are shrieking that they are afraid of me. I am not even noticed by the other residents. Randy of course is more relaxed as he knows that I am looking after him at his bedside. Finally I am somewhat comfortable with this arrangement but of course I would prefer 24/7 access to him like other family members have to their loved ones. I am hoping to access the ethics committee for a ruling to say a two year ban based on staff and visitors who have nothing else to do but target a 70 year old lady and bully her until she had a verbal outburst with staff over giving a stuff toy to a resident is unreasonable. The LPN grabbed it out of my hand and he told me the resident did not need it and ripped it from my hands.He did not ask the resident and the resident to my mind was disturbed by his behavior. Since he could not talk I had to defend my kindness. It was a large stuffed toy. And after two years the LPN is till working there making decisions for residents. The Santa Clause stuffed toy remained for months in the nurses station. I suspect only to annoy me.

I am so sorry.

Randy, I am so sorry that I didn't try hard enough to save you. I am so very sorry. I could have save you for a few more months or maybe a year I do not know but VCH forcing me from your treatment and not seeing you and not being able to talk to staff I did not know what they were doing to you to keep you alive as long as possible. This afternoon a friend of Randy's took me to Canada Tire to purchase plastic buckets so I can store all my/Randy's possessions. Rearranging everything and repacking everything should take me a few days. I just can't throw any of Randy's belongings out yet. it is too soon. I hope all those that were party to what happen on October 22 2013, November 18, 2013, December 26, 32103, and the first week of April 13 2014 and January 29 2014 are feeling remorse for what they did. All of them should be investigated and moved to no human contact duty. .

My Randy

I do not think I will ever be free of Randy. I woke up in a cold sweat racing to the phone as I knew Randy was trying to call me. Of course no one was there as how could there be as Randy was dead. Today, another day lost in tears and guilt for not trying hard enough to save him.