Thank you for the cards.

I want to thank all of you who sent me sympathy cards after Randy's death.  Each one of them were expensive cards with thoughtful comments.  They are still a comforting memory of Randy as I view them and reread the comments ... thank you.

I just got another card in the mail. You have no idea what a simple card means in these times of grieving.

VCH knew Ramdy was dying and yet they attempted to put a 100% ban on me visiting him based on consultants who would do anything to stay in the good reimbrusement guarantees from VCH.  Neither of them spoke to me and yet they decided I was a danger.  Randy had no one with him from Janaury 2014 to April 13 2014 except for short periods of time.  The police won't even get involved as there was no evidence to the hearsay hate promoted by GPC. The GPC mob has to remain a mob otherwise I would be vindicated  and they would be fired for unprofessional conduct or worst yet get promoted en mass.  All you have to do is read the pleadings to see how bizarre they are.  Nothing else for these professionals to do except spend four years persecuting me and denying Randy his right to see me.  Name one concrete thing I did that would harm anyone.  Nothing. Each incident was precipitated by GPC.




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18 November 2013

Tomorrow will be the 13th of July 2014, the third anniversary of Randy's death in the ICU at VGH.  The only thing I am able to do is think abut what happened when Dr. Dunne and the staff of GPC arranged to have Randy boxed.  I was able to save him then (November 18 2013) but after I got 100%$ banned from GPC I couldn't save him any more. Not even the police could help.  No one.  I am vomitoid with the horror of it all.

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Death by Dehydration

 Death by dehydration is also happening in Canada.

 The Sad Fate of Casey Kasem: Death by Dehydration

by Bobby Schindler | Washington, DC | LifeNews.com | 6/12/14 5:21 PM

A Los Angeles Superior Court Judge reversed his own ruling, permitting Casey Kasem’s daughter, Kerri Kasem, to remove her father’s food and hydration (via feeding tube), which will result in his death by starvation and dehydration. Kasem’s wife of 33 years, Jean Kasem, is fighting for the life of her husband, with her attorney, Steve Haney, calling the judge’s decision, “the functional equivalent of a death sentence.”
Growing up in the 70’s, I was introduced to Casey Kasem’s easy to recognize voice as each week he counted down “American Top 40″ hits for almost four decades on a radio show heard around the world. Kasem was also the voice of the character Shaggy on “Scooby-Doo” cartoons for 40 years.
According to reports, Kasem is stricken with dementia and Parkinson’s; typically, treatable conditions. Once Kasem begins the process of dying by having his food and water removed, he will endure a death that no family member should ever have to witness. It is cruel and barbaric and could take days, and often weeks to play itself out, torturing not only the patient, but those who love him as well.In stark contrast, St. John Paul II who also had Parkinson’s, was afforded a feeding tube as part of his end of life care, and subsequently died naturally.
I watched my own sister, Terri Schiavo, anguish through almost two weeks without food or water and there are no words that can properly describe the inhumanity. In her last days, we would not permit our mother to visit Terri, in an effort to spare her additional torment, as blood pooled in Terri’s eyes, and her skin and lips were terribly cracked because her tissues were lacking any moisture. Terri’s body turned different colors of blue and yellow and her breathing became so rapid, it was as if she was outside sprinting. I could go on.
Indeed, the disagreement between Kasem’s family also raises the issue of the dangers of health care initiatives. It places the interpretations into the hands of “quality of life” minded family members, healthcare professionals, hospital boards and ethics committees, not to mention some Judges who have no regard for the dignity of human life.
Make no mistake about it, countless conscious and unconscious persons die by deliberate starvation and dehydration every year. Typically, we only hear of the cases in which there is a family disagreement or in cases where there is a celebrity involved. And with an accepting culture, laws that permit this behavior, and a government controlling our health care system under the guise of “compliance”, this scenario will become more common and the pre-mature death of our medically vulnerable loved ones will increase significantly.
We live in a very troubled and an increasingly dangerous America. Our culture has lost sight of God’s supreme right over when life begins and when it ends, and has “turned on its head” the true meaning and value of suffering and compassion.Those of us who wish to defend life in all stages, especially for the most vulnerable, are demonized when we ask the obvious question: where is the humanity in deliberately denying someone’s most basic rights – food and water? Tragically, what was once considered barbaric has now become part of everyday life.

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The House of God

I just finished reading the classic novel of life and death in a American Hospital: The House of God, by Dr. Samuel Shem.  With over two million copies sold, The House of God, has been said to be the most important medical novels of the twentieth century. It was published in 1978.

It was written before DNRs and when doctors did everything to keep patients alive.  The most important reason for reading the book was I was looking for swear words used 40 years ago and they were all there.  These words are still being used now so they are not swear words; they are part of our everyday language.

The mindset of Vancouver Coastal Health is still in the 1950s.  All one has to do is go to an emergency room at VGH and listen to what patients and doctors are speaking.  So called swear words are used in everyday speak; they are nothing more than an expression in shorthand of fears/feelings/conclusions of patients.

SLURPERS: Doctors striving to lick their way up the academic medical cone towards the top.  (from House of God).  The reason why health professionals refuse to say anything negative publicly about their colleagues.

On Sunday July 13 2014 will be Randy's third month since he died at VGH.  I gave him a green burial.  It was a perfect funeral with good memories.  I laid bunches of carnations on his grave.  Carnations have a long life span (three weeks).  When I get some extra money, I will purchase the space next to him.  It is wonderful and peaceful under the trees among nature.    .

Randy's Stuff

I haven't been able to unpack Randy's belonging yet.  I just couldn't.  I was afraid that if any of his belongings were missing and I would become upset and I am tired of being upset.  GPC won't even let me on site to pick up his stuff.  A friend of my went there and she said that Randy's stuff was in garbage bags in a common area that anyone could rifle though.  I asked for an inventory but GPC refused to do one.  I know his memory foam pillow which I purchased for him went missing in December 2013 and his stand for his television was thrown out without notifying me.

I want to know why Karen Marshall, a security guard, put a choke hold on me when I was attempting to remove Randy lawfully from GPC: October 2013.  Paladin Security isn't suppose to touch anyone so why did she do this to me.  Practising her martial arts on an old lady.  I told the police I wanted her charged and the police did nothing. And there was Brad who stood at the entrance to the visitior's room when I was inside in a boxing stance with his fists up threatening to punch me if I attempted to leave the room.  Once you get labeled by VCH you are open season for abuse. Where do these people come from that encourage violence.




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I am so sorry, Randy.

I am so so very sorry Randy that I did not fight hard enough to keep you safe.  How could they do this to us in our counrty at the hands of our most educated physicians in the world. Every single time you were at VCH or St. Pauls I begged them not to send you back to GPC as it was not safe, and they did it anyways.They won't even investigate  GPC was not his home; it was purgatory from where there was no escape. How could they have allowed this to happen. He was suppose to have gone to GF Strong but at the last minutes they decided that he was never going to be a productive member of society so he was sent to GPC. Them deferring to a head nurse.  This is what this terrible terrible injustice came down to Tanu and her control freak management.  She even scared staff so that they would report things the way they knew that Tanu wanted.. She even scared off visitors that came to see Randy..  And management also would collude and back her up as well.  Her bullying forced every manager of GPC to quit but like all successful bullies she is still there dictating that she was able to ban me one hundred percent from GPC from my Randy in life as well as death and she can continue and no one can stop her..I am still angry over the fact that I was not notified of Randy's memorial service at GPC.  I wonder who went,  You would never think that a health facility would treat people like they do but they do. 

I am sorry Randy.  I am so sorry.
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Forgive but Do Not Forget

Forgive But Do Not Forget.  I do not know what this means.  I was told to do this but I do not understand it.  How can you forgive a bunch of professional health care providers that put Randy and me through hell for four years with their over cautiousness as if I would harm someone.  What about them, them that are guilty of culpable homicides like the Timer "accidental' death.  Them putting on Randy two Do No Transfer Orders when he was in need of acute care so that he would die if he needed care more than what George Pearson Centre could offer.  What legal right have doctors to do this.

On two occasions I found Randy needing acute care and him having a do not transfer order on him and then what happens I get banned from seeing Randy for ninety days with management saying it will be extended forever..  They wanted Randy to die without me being with him as I might call 911 again.  Ro Ang the manager of George Pearson Centre said that all patients have a DNT on them.  I was shocked and still am as on November 18 and December 26, 2013 staff refused to send Randy to VGH because of these orders.  I had to force a call to 911. If Randy didn't go to VGH, he would have died a not good death at GPC.

It has been nine months since I contacted the College of Physicians and Surgeons to do something.  I haven't heard anything from them.  If I am to follow the advice of forgive then the college must be assuming that I am forgiving Dr. Dunne for his culpability.

Because of what Dr. Dunne did and when previously we asked that Dr. Dunne be removed as Randy's physician: this never happened.  Something about policy.  Once you have a physician in residential care you can't have him removed. You are forced into a deadly alliance.  Randy knew Dr. Dunne wanted to kill him but he couldn't do anything about it and neither could I.

Read: LifeNews.com

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